27 December, 2016

Upcoming FREE Healing Ceremony, via Facebook Live

On January 2nd, 2017, at 12 noon (EST), I will be offering a public Healing Ceremony online, through Facebook's new "Live" feature!

Monika Healing Coyote, (c) JAE Images, 2015
(The Facebook Event listing can be found here)

All are welcome to attend, no matter what his/her religious or spiritual beliefs. I will sing different sacred songs, to honor the Helping Spirits, as well as divinely-inspired chants. Attendees are welcome to sit in meditation during the event, or watch on Facebook with any WiFi devices (I make rather funny faces when I sing, ha ha!).

Sometimes, spiritual healing ceremonies inspire creative problem-solving, as well as a clearing of blockages. Journaling can be an excellent way to process these moments of inspiration! However, if you notice some difficult imagery, or want additional insight/healing, you are welcome to email me for follow-up services (I will not be able to answer any questions during the ceremony).

Although I am offering this ceremony free to the online community, donations are happily accepted (but not required). If you have a PayPal account, then please use "lonelycoyote@healingcoyote.com" as the email address for donations.

I am excited to learn more about this forum for healing, and I hope & pray that I work out all my trouble-shooting issues soon!

Blessings to you for the new year,

Monika Healing Coyote

14 December, 2016

Finding hope in the darkness

(originally posted in Dec 2014, re-posted because Emotional Support = Love)

(from WikiCommons)
In the United States, December is filled with huge amounts of emotion, tension, stress, anxiety, hopes, fears,  and expectations (that are sometimes not filled). The focus is on the Holidays and Family, and that combination can bring past hurts and Soul Loss to the forefront. Everyone is trying to prepare for the "drama" of visiting relatives, many who are unable to see a person as anyone other that who s/he was as a child.

There is a huge divide between the expectation of love and acceptance from family/loved ones, and the reality of family patterns being replayed over and over again. Most of the time it is unconscious (no fault of any relative), but in some situations, relatives can be quite cruel if one does not "fit" into their notions of a "good daughter, son, cousin, wife, husband, mother, uncle, etc."  Psychologically and energetically, this is exhausting and secretly disappointing.

The Spirits have come through in a big way in each and every appointment, to help clients feel loved, cared for, protected, and above all, SAFE. All of us have wounds from childhood and beyond, that are part of Family Shadows. No matter how loving the family, or the relatives, there is always some sort of painful experience that has happened as a result of one not fulfilling certain expectations (and the hurt that comes from the resulting judgment).

Many people are preparing to travel for the holidays, to make the journey "home", and to renew the bonds of family, friendship, and love. The chakras most affected by these preparations are the Ancestral chakra, the Root chakra, and the Heart chakra. Any blockages, any intrusions, any "scar tissue", and any Soul Loss can appear to manifest more strongly, and immediately put a client in a position of weakness when working with these issues.

It can be difficult to remember everything that one has accomplished, and all of the growth and strides made, when one returns home. If you are struggling with these complicated feelings and a desire to be truly seen as you are, and not who you were, then Call Out to your own Helping Spirits (in prayer, out loud or in your head, or by offerings). They want to help, and they want everyone to feel Loved, even if those feelings are too complicated and disappointing to feel during the Holidays.

If you need help with releasing some of the scar tissue, and regaining your energy after the Holidays, then let's work together for Soul Retrieval and Emotional Release.

Remember: You are SO LOVED AND BLESSED by your Helping Spirits-- all you need to do is ask for their help!

And finally, for those who I've met, and for those I haven't: I love you. I love you through all of the pain and the heartache of this month. You are loved.

29 November, 2016

Replacing Fear with Wisdom (a Journey with Athena)

This month has been an emotionally painful one for many readers and clients. Election Day in the United States has forced the Shadow Side of the American public to center-stage, and it is ugly.

I've struggled with my own shock, disappointment, fear, and anxiety. I've also worked with many others, through healing and mentoring, that are stuck within these painful emotional states as well. No matter what the reasons for people voting the way that they did, there is a palpable sense of Fear, and a knowing that the USA has been profoundly changed by the results of Nov 8th.

As I've worked with clients (both old and new) for shamanic healing, one goddess has stepped forward repeatedly the past few weeks, Athena.

Isabella Rossellini as Athena in Hallmark Entertainment's The Odyssy (1997)
Although Athena is a Warrior goddess, I've noticed that her Wisdom and Healing aspects have been more present for me and my clients (different warrior goddesses have other strong aspects coming through). She has directed me to the profound Soul Loss that much of the country has experienced, and that healing, grounding, and centering are needed in order to continue to move forward. People are floundering under misinformation, shock, grief, hatred, trauma, and blame. Some are trying to focus their energies towards building more solid, loving communities, while others are moved to speak their Truth, using the mediums of social media.

I have continued to work with clients individually, in my small way, to help expand consciousness, ideas, and increase one's love of others (especially other humans). Athena inspired the most recent journeys during the monthly Beginner/Intermediate Shamanic Journey Group, and has permitted me to write about them for all to experience:

Major Theme: How can we ground & center ourselves when our world has been "rocked?"  How can we feel safe enough to journey/leave our bodies, when we don't even feel safe within our bodies?

  • First Journey: Ask your Helping Spirit for a dismemberment, in order to release as much malaise, fear, anxiety, etc. as possible. Once your Spirits have re-formed your energetic body, ask for a simple-yet-powerful technique for shielding, and follow with a discussion on how to bring the technique into the physical realm.
    • For example, a past client discovered that Water was the element that most easily cleansed her etheric bodies, and that Fire refilled her. However, she learned that a combination of Fire and Earth would bring those protections into the physical realm, and she was guided to wear Obsidian in her pockets (a volcanic stone).
  • Second Journey: Ask your Helping Spirit to introduce you to Athena, and gift her with Offerings (wine, olives, incense, etc). Listen to her wisdom, and ask her to help you retrieve any energy or essence that may be trapped over the Washington, D.C. area. Ask for her Divine Healing, to help you feel whole, healed, and ready for the future.
    • If you find that it is difficult to communicate with this deity, or that your focus/concentration is low, ask your Helping Spirit to "reset" your flight-or-flight response. This technique, called "Talking the Jaguar out of the Tree," can help ground & center you within your own body, so that you don't feel buffeted by the intense energies and emotions of the USA.
I encourage all readers to do this journey work, whether alone or with groups of friends. If you need help, or someone to drum for you/hold space, I am here, and I will not leave you alone. We need to strengthen our spiritual communities, and our ties with our Spirits, so that we can move forward into whatever future is coming.

10 November, 2016

Upcoming lecture in Salem, New Hampshire

This Saturday, I will be presenting at the Temple of Witchcraft, in Salem, New Hampshire. I will be giving a very in-depth lecture on the differences between ecstatic spiritual experiences and forms of mental illness.

For those that are local, I am looking forward to meeting you and working with you on expanding education in this topic! For those that are not local, this lecture is also available Online, in real-time, and you can watch and interact with me at home (in your pajamas, if you wish). The Facebook Announcement/Event is located here, and gives instructions for registering via PayPal or in-person. The cost is a floating fee between $30 and $40, for the ~3 hour lecture.

Hope to see you there!
from Temple of Witchcraft

24 October, 2016

Radio Interview with Body & Soul Awareness

A few weeks ago, I was interviewed by Body & Soul Awareness Radio. My most recent article described the technique of cord-cutting, but for those that are interested, you can listen to the recording of the interview below:

Many thanks and blessings to Stephanie and Oxana!

17 October, 2016

The spiritual technique of cutting cords

Last week, I was a guest on the Body & Soul Awareness Radio Show, and the hosts and I discussed the technique of Cord Cutting.

While there are numerous definitions of cord cutting within a spiritual or emotional context, I've observed the following themes in my healing appointments:

  • All of Life carries Energy, and that Energy is in perpetual motion.
  • Energy is constantly exchanged between living beings, places, objects, etc. This is one aspect of communication.
  • Cords are created between two or more of the above, in order to facilitate communication and the exchange of energy.
    • If the cords are healthy and balanced/egalitarian, they appear golden.
    • If the cords are unhealthy, and cause a dependency or domination effect, they appear shadowy & grey.
    • If the cords show both grey shadows and golden threads, then the energetic relationship is complicated, and requires more in-depth and advanced work.
  • Note: These trends are from my own healing work, and you may discover different Truths in your own practice!
Because of my training and experience in mental health, most of the cords I observe in others are due to Interpersonal Relationships (and all of the strange ways that they can go wonky). How many of us struggle with family relationships that have loving but passive-aggressive qualities? Or romantic relationships that "feel" different after the new relationship energy has worn off? And how many of us struggle with the complicated politics of coworker/boss relationships?

Most of the time, the give-and-take of these interpersonal relationships (and the energetic exchange) balances out. We give of ourselves to our loved ones, to help them through crisis, pain, or other emotional upset. And they respond in different loving ways to replenish our energy. This is how cords work to help grow strong relationships.

Of course, relationships can change in an instant, and the balance forged may never return to its healthy form. Sometimes, a cord needs to be cut, in order for both parties to heal.

When working with others for shamanic healing, my helping spirits will alert me to the need for cord-cutting, as well as the most effective method for facilitating this. Because of the advanced nature of this type of healing, I advise that those who are interested in cord-cutting to seek out a reputable healer and/or therapist. However, there are ways in which to work with helping spirits for your own healing (i.e., asking for a cord to be cut/released from a relationship in which you have no more contact, etc.). 

Spiritual tools to assist with personal cord-cutting

Sacred Knives:

Athame- in Neo-Pagan religions, the athame is a ritual knife used to help create sacred space. It can also help cut psychic & energetic cords.
from WikiCommons
Stones & Crystals:

Stibnite- Stibnite is a form of lead antimony, and follows the Mythic Theme that if something is poisonous in this world, it is incredibly healing in the Otherworlds. It is a heavy metal, and so anyone who works with it (especially with bare hands) should immediately wash up at the end of the session.
from WikiCommons
Aegirine- This stone is named after the Norse God AEgir, who rules over the deep oceans and seas. Water is very often used as a symbol for emotion, and so this stone assists with cutting emotional cords.

from WikiCommons
Sacred Plants:

Bay Leaves- Bay Laurel is a fantastic plant that assists with cutting away cords of influence. In shamanic headspace, they appear as numerous tiny knives. There is a folk custom of placing a Bay leaf in your pillowcase to help cut away energetic ties while sleeping.
from WikiCommons
Apple Tree- I adore working with the Apple Tree (and not just because I am a Druid)! This plant loves humanity, and works well with the more complicated cords that are both grey & gold. Apple helps to bring Joy back to interpersonal relationships, and doesn't necessarily cut cords, but brings back balance and equal energetic exchange.
from WikiCommons
Helping Spirits:

Dismemberment- This is a form of healing that is purely spirit-driven during journey work and meditation. A strong relationship of trust needs to be established between you and your helping spirit(s), before asking for this type of healing to help release energetic cords (a great way to increase the communication between you and the spirits is by learning journey techniques).

If you are interested in learning more about cord-cutting, I invited you to attend the next Journey Class (if you are local to central Maryland). I also encourage you to email me with any questions you may have, and we can work together to help release cords that are damaging, complicated, and a drain on your energy.

30 September, 2016

Helping to heal a broken foot with sacred tattoos

This past month, I worked with a client who had a broken foot. The circumstances surrounding this bone break were very strange, occurring right after a family funeral. There were difficulties during the healing process, as well as pain issues. The client contacted me to help discover if there was a spiritual/emotional/mental component to her physical injury.

After making her comfortable, I began to sing my songs, and call in the Spirits. I specifically asked for help with physical healing. I've received intermediate training in First Aid and CPR, but I am not a doctor, and my skill set focuses on the mental/emotional and spiritual aspects of healing. I needed help from the Otherworlds, and I got a not-so-subtle nudge to grab my beginner's anatomy workbook* and immediately focus my vision on the area.

Without going into too many personal details, I observed that the break was healing extremely slowly & poorly due to "dead energy" around it. During my training, I learned that hospitals, crisis centers, funeral homes, etc. can be "sinkholes" of dead energy (Souls who have not fully moved on yet, spiritual intrusions taking advantage of cracks in the aura/shielding of the body, and other things). Different Helping Spirits can work with the shaman in removing the influence of this dead energy, such as psychopomps, smoky quartz crystals, black kyanite, and yew wood.

After a very targeted healing around the area, Coyote began to speak about the importance of sacred tattoos; they bring healing into the physical realm and "lock it in," and they can also function as additional protection for the aura/etheric shielding around the body. He became really excited, and wanted me to give the client a tattoo to help her foot remain protected! I laughed, and reminded him that I am not a tattoo artist (or even that great of an artist) and that a tattoo is a very permanent mark on the body... I prodded him for a creative solution, and He focused on the black Sharpie marker on my desk.

With the client's permission, I drew healing designs on her foot, as well as a few Runes to help seal the magic. Algiz for protection, Wujoy for joy, and Jera for natural healing processes.

(c) Healing Coyote, 2016
 We thanked all of the Helping Spirits, and especially Coyote for his creativity! This lesson has inspired me to doodle designs when I'm taking a break between appointments, in case the need arises again. I look forward to more creative solutions when given a historical answer to a healing problem.

Hail and Thank You Spirits!

*It is very important for a healer to know his/her strengths, and especially his/her weaknesses. Many shamans are trained in a variety of methods, both by human teachers and Spirits, and excel in a few. Part of my "continuing education" is to learn more about physical healing and traditional medicine, so that I understand the images and instructions that are shown to me. What are your strengths? Where do you need more education?

20 September, 2016

A bit of Wyrd-ness...

It's weird out there, folks.

The Full Moon was last Friday, and it also was a partial eclipse. Most months, I feel a sort of "psychic-pressure" building until the full moon switches over to waning, and then the pressure starts to drop. I also tend to feel a more immediate pressure drop once an eclipse is over.

(from WikiCommons)
But none of that happened.

In fact, it seems as if the pressure is still holding steady, and that this world and the Otherworlds are "warping over" each other. I have had some strange hikes in the woods, in which no wildlife made a sound for 4 solid hours. I've had lots of mis-communications (although it is Mercury Retrograde for a few more days). Traffic patterns have been off, and it's been harder to feel that "instinct" when driving around familiar places. The sky has felt sort of unreal, and the wind near me has been non-existent. I've had difficult themes appear in many shamanic appointments. And I keep seeing Things out of the corner of my eyes, even when I'm not drumming or journeying.

How can we keep ourselves steady in the middle of this strange miasma? Many of us, whether psychic or not, tend to pull together with loved ones, stay near home, and wait it out. Coyote has been encouraging me to go to ground, too, but waiting isn't really an option when we have to go to work, pick up children, purchase groceries, do laundry, etc.

This Thursday is the Autumnal Equinox. It's a workday for many of us, but also a High Ritual Day for numerous religions. I encourage you to mark the occasion, in some small way, and give offerings. Whether it is lighting incense or pouring a bottle of beer to honor the Ancestors, try and do something to honor the equal moments of light & dark, summer & winter, day & night.

I will be doing the same, and praying for the pressure to release. If you'd like to work together, to help push past some of your own strange feelings and blockages, contact me. We will create a ceremony for your healing, and work with the current energies so that they are not as overwhelming.

We are entering the Dark part of the Year, and closing in quickly on Samhain. It's only going to get weirder (Wyrd-er) folks; let's come together in Community and Healing!

16 September, 2016

Frederick Pagan Pride Day This Saturday!

This Saturday, Sept 17th, is the Frederick Pagan Pride Day celebration.

(from their website)

Frederick is a fantastic town, full of historic culture, and is also home to many great and wonderful Pagans. My favorite tattoo shop, Time Bomb Tattoos, has been instrumental in helping me to create artwork in honor of different deities I work with, and Cricket Manor hosts many of my shamanic ceremonies and classes.

I will be teaching a short class about Coyote, as well as leading a Journey to visit him, right after opening ceremony (around 11am). Looking forward to this event, and meeting/working with many of you. See you there!

10 September, 2016

A visit from Manannan mac Lir, in the flesh!

This past Sunday, I visited Monhegan Island, off the coast of Maine. I had not visited the North Atlantic since my trip to Ireland back in 2003, and I always considered those waters to be Manannan’s domain (as well as the waters surrounding the Isle of Man). Crossing the Gulf towards the dock, I had a full hour on the ferry to prepare offerings, load up my hiking bag, and pack my journal & Runes.

Monhegan Island, (c) Healing Coyote, 2016
It was a gorgeously clear and sunny day, and the waters were both gray and blue, with just the smallest amount of whitewater on top. After docking at the Wharf, I began my trek through the town to Whitehead. In about a mile, I was on the other side of the island, staring down at rocky cliffs that went straight down to the ocean. Numerous types of sea birds, including Sand Pipers, Plovers, Laughing Gulls, and Bonaparte Gulls flew near me. I carefully made my way down some of the rocks to an outcropping that was big enough for my pack and to sit safely.

Monhegan Island, ME (c) 2016 Healing Coyote
I began a Two Powers meditation, and my roots went deep into the rock of the island. The sky turned multi-faceted hues of blue and white, and Manannan mac Lir rode in on a huge wave that stretched nearly a hundred feet. As the giant wave crashed into shore, he hopped off, sat next to me, and we began our conversation.  At the end of our time together, I gave offerings of apple (his sacred fruit) to both the land and the ocean. The birds also partook, so I made sure to cut tiny pieces!

I gathered my things, hopped off the rocks, and began to climb back up to the trail. I had started to feel warm, sitting in the sun, so once I reached the trailhead, I put my pack down and took off my sweatshirt. When I straightened back up, a couple of hikers suddenly appeared on the rocks near me, and sat down. The woman (perhaps wife of the man?) smiled at me, and the husband saw me and said, “Oh hello! Can I tell you a story?”  

Now, I had just completed an intense conversation in my head with a deity, and you better believe I giggled at the synchronicity of the timing. Of course I said, "Yes, I'd love a story!"  As the stranger spoke, I made note of his close-cropped white hair & beard, his tan, weathered skin, and his very animated face. He also wore flannel, sunglasses, and had a thick North Carolinian accent, ha ha! When he finished the story with a joke, I laughed hard, and thanked him for “blessing me with such a fun start to the morning.”  I swear, if I could see his eyes underneath his sunglasses, I’m sure they would’ve twinkled!

I hiked a quarter mile up the trail, and then gave more offerings to the genius loci (Spirits of Place). I also promised Manannana good strong dark beer when I finished my hike, as I was so tickled to have received a visit. Hail Manannan mac Lir, trickster god of the Celtic Lands!

(c) 2016 Healing Coyote

19 August, 2016

The Aye-Aye, a new Helping Spirit

In the past few months, a new helping spirit has come forward to help clients during healing sessions. With its startling appearance and quiet observation skills, the Aye-aye has assisted me in surprising ways!

the Aye-aye (from WikiCommons)
My first interaction with this spirit in the Otherworlds was quite subtle. I was having some difficulty removing a sticky, sap-like blockage from a client's auric field. Even with different methods of healing, I couldn't get the stuck energy to move. Suddenly, my attention turned towards the client's feet, and I saw a tree growing there. The sky darkened to nighttime, and two piercing eyes showed through the foliage. As my vision focused more on those eyes, I began to see the shape of the Aye-aye moving down the tree trunk. It walked over the client's auric field, and began rolling the sticky-sap-blockage like a burrito, and eventually gobbled it up!

Since then, the Aye-aye has joined me in a few different healing ceremonies. Sometimes, it will eat away dead, sticky energy, and other times it will watch the ceremony (and me, too).

I've looked in numerous Animal Spirits books, including those by Dr. Farmer and Ted Andrews, but have not found much about this helping spirit. Research into the myths of the peoples of Madagascar has turned up limited information, and most of it describes the Aye-aye as a portent of ill-luck (they are usually killed immediately if sighted). The only pop-culture reference I can find regarding the Aye-aye is from Legends of Korra (the Aye-aye is portrayed as a sacred Spirit Guardian, with a wonderfully sarcastic sense of humor!).

Although the Aye-aye has quite a negative reputation as a harbinger of doom, its actions during ceremonies have been nothing but healing and supportive. The Aye-aye is not a native spirit to the Americas, and I have limited understand of the culture in which it has such a negative role. But I have been very thankful for its actions in the healing of my clients.

I look forward to growing my friendship with this new helping spirit, and honoring its assistance with more tricky energetic blockages. Hail and welcome, Aye-aye!

04 August, 2016

Happy August!

Hello wonderful amazing people!

From now until Thursday August 11th, I will be away on a Spiritual Retreat. I will have almost no phone signal, and certainly no WiFi, but I arrive back late that evening, and will respond to messages, concerns, and questions then.

Here are a few upcoming events for this month:

I also have numerous individual appointment times open during the week, starting on Tuesday, August 16th. Please contact me, and I look forward to working with you for healing!


Monika Healing Coyote

26 July, 2016

Grand Healing Ceremony at Cricket Manor, Frederick MD on August 14th!

On Sunday, August 14th, there will be a public Grand Healing Ceremony in Frederick, MD. Located at Cricket Manor, a lovely historic farmstead just west of downtown Frederick.

(c) 2015, Healing Coyote
This ceremony will offer a range of healing modalities, including Soul Retrieval, Reiki, Crystal healing, Sacred Woods, Plants & Herbs, TCM Energy Medicine, etc., from 4-6 different professional healers. A large healing grid will be set up in the central area, and attendees will sit in circle around this main area. Each healer will make their way around the room, providing emotional comfort, healing, insight, and divination (if needed). 

Here are the details:
  • When: Sunday, August 14th, from 11am to around 4pm. Please be on time and at your spot no later than 10:55am, as introductions will begin promptly at 11am!
  • Where: Cricket Manor (see above link, more detailed directions (including parking) will be given to paid attendees)
  • Cost: $75 flat rate per attendee, paid via PayPal (this is a fully pre-paid event, you must pay in advance, and we sell out quickly!)*
  • What to bring: A comfortable seat cushion, yoga mat, camp chair, etc., as we will be on a concrete floor (there will be AC, huzzah!). A journal and pen/pencil, to write down what different healers may tell you. There will also be a range of books about helping spirits, crystals, etc. to write down any insights that these may provide, as you wait your turn for your next healing. Finally, bring food and drink, as there will be a social meet & greet directly after the ceremony ends, where both healers and attendees can share meals, stories, etc!
  • How to prepare for ceremony: A public group healing ceremony is much different from a private individual ceremony, but there are some similarities. This article may provide some insights, as well as links to other articles on Soul Retrieval and shamanic healing.
My fellow healers and I look forward to working with the Community in this way, and please email me with any questions!

*PayPal instructions: The email address to use for pre-payment is different from the above; please let me know of your interest, and I will reply with precise instructions. Thank you!

19 July, 2016

A story of integration and follow-up from a shamanic client

July has been an intense month of healing, both within myself and within my shamanic clients. Many healers work with clients at moments of intense pain and crisis, to help focus on the specific triggers, intrusions, and blockages. After those have been removed, the natural healing process can take over, and the client can feel relief.

Many healers work with clients for short periods of time, and then provide supportive integration and aftercare for a few weeks following the healing.  Here is a client's story of integration and healing:
"During the course of the healing, Monika was able to intuit several specific issues I was unpacking at the time of the healing, and to process them with me both verbally and spiritually. Her healing not only covered emotional and mental ailments, but some physical and ancestral issues as well. Monika was understanding and tactful during our time together, keeping my safety and comfort in the experience as her top priority, and taking pains to confirm anything she was telling me through rune casting, conversation, as well as what she was communicating with her spirits about. 
After having this healing experience with Monika, I immediately felt some deeper knots in my being untwist, and I felt more relaxed than I have in a few months. A lot of stress I was facing at work has felt more manageable-- meaning, I still feel it, but I don't feel drained by it. I'm excited to go to work again, and not huddling up in bed. As a school teacher, that was really helpful in the last couple weeks before the year ended! Emotional and relationship issues I was facing unwrapped and became a lot easier to be straightforward about. A pain in my feet Monika noticed has ultimately remained, but abated for a few weeks after she helped to heal it. An internal infection she noticed that I had gotten treatment for two days before the healing cleared up. She wasn't examining that part of my body with anything except her spirits to guide her, so I thought this was particularly impressive. I can't necessarily attribute that healing to Monika's work, BUT I think it's important to note that she noticed it without any prompting from me. Before she knew I had received treatment for it, she suggested I go see a doctor-- which says a lot about her character as a healer. She isn't trying to claim that shamanism can replace other forms of medicine. She works to honor the importance of other healers in preserving her clients' well being. Overall it was a really good experience, it was worth paying her well for her services, and I will totally do it again without hesitation."
One of the greatest omens for an effective ritual is that a client can return to his/her everyday life, refreshed, renewed, and ready to face the same struggles with new willpower. I give great thanks to the Spirits for working with us both that day, and I am overjoyed for this client's health!

Hail and Thank You, Helping Spirits! 

13 July, 2016

Handfasting; the joining of two Ancestral lines

This month, I worked with my first couple for handfasting and marriage.

(c) Healing Coyote, 2016
As with all new ventures, it had some great moments of synchronicity and hilarity. I will keep most of the ritual details private, but I was given permission to write about a wonderful moment with the Nature Spirits:

The wedding took place in a gorgeous forest location off of a path in Great Falls Park. We all arrived early, to beat the heat and humidity, as well as to avoid hikers accidentally walking in on the ceremony (a sneaky ceremony, Coyote-approved!). After parking the car, gathering our supplies, and walking 20 minutes into the woods, we found a clearing near a huge American Beech tree. The sun shone perfectly through the leaves, and there was a mix of light and dark all around us. A perfect place for transitioning from one "state" to another!

When beginning any magical working, whether a healing, a ritual, a marriage, etc., I invite all the helping spirits with words and with song. Usually my eyes are closed, and they remain that way for the full invocation. As I sang for the Nature Spirits and Spirits of Place (genius loci), I could feel a chill across my skin, and the forest was filled with numinous beings.

Suddenly, there was a large crashing noise. My eyes flew open, my rattle stopped, and all of us turned towards the sound.

A beautiful, golden, gigantic dog had broken away from its humans and raced down the path to join our ceremony! The loud crash was his skidding to a stop, with a confused expression on his face, as we all stared at him in surprise.

A few moments later, the women walking with him entered the clearing, apologizing profusely for stopping the ceremony. We laughed, as it was obvious that the doggie had responded to the sung invitation!

(c) Healing Coyote, 2016
The ceremony continued, the lovers were joined, and we celebrated the blessings of the Spirits, by feasting with them afterwards (at one of the most delicious restaurants in Rockville, yum!).

I give thanks to the Kindred and the couple who entrusted me with this sacred task, and I look forward to working with more lovely couples in the future. Hail the Spirits!

30 June, 2016

Changing your Fate, three client healing stories

During the month of June, I had the pleasure to work with a range of clients that all shared one major theme; they had changed their Lifepath based on hard work, willpower, and a little luck from their Helping Spirits.

This type of advanced shamanic work was new to me. I had studied very basic physics in school, and had watched enough Star Trek that the Spirits had a basic symbol set with which to teach me.  I also studied a few basic philosophies regarding Lifepaths, Soul Contracts, etc. Thoth (ḏḥwty) has been a great instructor for this Work, and helped me to have clients "make an addendum" to their Soul Contracts for their current lifetimes.

The following stories illustrate different aspects of Time/Space, and Quantum Realities within shamanism, and all show the strength needed for a client to change his/her Fate.

Client 1:

This client approached me around six months ago for shamanic healing work surrounding personal and family issues. One main concern had been her great desire to give birth to a baby. Numerous traditional medical treatments had been utilized, and after many years, she had become pregnant with a viable fertilized egg. Our work together involved maintaining the health of the pregnancy, as well as her own physical & mental health (as the mother).

A few weeks ago, we worked together for a follow-up appointment. Her child had been born (such a gorgeous baby!), although at great physical strain and cost to her. As we worked together to regain her energy and improve her health, I saw a vision of her energy field "jumping the tracks" into a different "train track."  When I asked my Spirits more about the imagery, They explained that in her current lifetime, she was not "fated" to have children, at least not through personal childbirth. Because she had grown and shifted a bit since her original Soul Contract, and worked hard to include that blessing into her current lifetime, the Spirits worked to help manifest that choice into being.

Client 2:

A client contacted me last week in regards to medical complications and abdominal pain. He underwent surgery the previous year, and numerous side effects had prevented him from healing fully. Although he had tried a wide range of traditional and non-traditional methods, he felt no relief, and was at his wit's end for a solution.

As we began our work together, the imagery showed itself within the Ancestral Chakra and the abdominal cavity. This client's lifeline appeared to have extended itself past a previous potential Curse-- stomach cancer. I asked my Spirits for more information, and They spoke of the current lifeline's cancer diagnosis, but that it had been altered when the client had abdominal surgery to rectify very painful glands. I very carefully discussed this with my client, and he immediately responded by revealing a very scary fear that he would die from cancer. He had felt this fear for many years of his life, starting just past puberty, and thought that it was almost as strong as a "psychic knowing" or a "true dream."  The Spirits stated that his current bout of pain and symptoms were the "physical-realm side effects" of changing his Fate.

Client 3:

Recently, I worked with a client who was suffering from depression and anxiety, brought on by a painful divorce. He wrote to me, describing a shamanic journey meditation in which his Spirits showed him a different reality overlaid on top of this one. The different reality showed him suffering from suicidal depression, and eventually taking his own life. This client was deeply worried by what he saw, and we worked together to explore more of his meditation.

In the healing ceremony, during the Soul Retrieval song, the two overlapping realities began to unwind. My Spirits helped me to direct him to speak a powerful Truth, "Although I may be struggling, I love my life, and I choose to live it fully."  This helped to "lock in" the timeline in which he received therapy for his depression and did not engage in suicidal behaviors.

In all three of these stories, my continued work with each client will be to help manage the "side-effects" of changing her/his Fate. Physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual changes result from adjusting one's Lifepath. Our Free Will is one of the most powerful forces in this world and the Otherworlds, and the lessons I've learned this month will help me both in my own work, and for future clients.

I give thanks to all Helping Spirits!

24 June, 2016

New Services for the Spiritual Community!

On May 31st, 2016, I received my Reverendship from the Universal Life Church. This provides credentials for services that I can now provide for the Mid-Atlantic & East Coast Communities. I am very excited to expand my spiritual leadership into this realm!

(c) Monika Healing Coyote, 2016
Here are a few services that I am now offering:


I am able to legally join two consenting adults into marriage in Maryland, Virginia, Delaware, Washington D.C., and other locations within the United States. I will never discriminate against anyone because of their race, nationality, preferred gender, preferred partner, etc. Love shows itself in many forms, and the Soul recognizes what it wants, no matter the trappings of the physical body (i.e., LGBTIAQ+ inclusive).

I will work with both members of the happy couple, providing shamanic healing services (joint-healing ceremonies, if you wish!), mentoring, and a Journey to discover the Totemic Spirit** of the newly-created family.

$200 basic fee
$350 with joint healing ceremony
(extra travel expenses negotiated 
on a case-by-case basis)

End-of-Life Services

My 15+ years in the mental health/human services fields have given me the background and experience to assist in mentoring those that are nearing the end of their life.

I am able to travel to hospitals, assisted living centers, private homes, and other locations, to provide mentoring to the client and family, as well as provide Soul Retrieval and Psychopomp work, if necessary.

$200 basic fee
$275 with Soul Retrieval/Psychopomp 
healing ceremony
(extra travel expenses negotiated
on a case-by-case basis)

**In different cultures, a Totemic Spirit was a Helping Spirit that protected the family, providing guardianship, protection, health, and prosperity. Whether the family was as small as two persons, or as large as many children, animals, etc., the Totemic Spirit would work in relationship to the family to offer assistance and relationship, with the exchange of offerings.

07 June, 2016

Shapeshifting coyotes, or how I received a new name

Back in January 2012, when I first started this blog and my professional shamanic practice, I asked my Spirits for a magical name. This name would symbolize my work, my personality, and help me retain some careful anonymity when working in public mental health.

I remember how Coyote barked, "Lonely Coyote!"

I recall how stunned I felt; how quickly the name came, and not really understanding what it meant. I liked the "flow" of it, and how it rolled off the tongue. And so I took the gift of my name, and spent the last four years learning its lessons, its benefits, and its restrictions.

This year, the lessons have been heart-breakingly painful. I have separated from my ex-husband, separated from my former teacher, and separated from a few small-yet-damaging magical communities. The loneliness I felt was overwhelming, but stripping everything away helped me to hone my skills and focus fully on my healing work.

A month ago, I traveled to the desert; to heal, and to really "dig into my loneliness."  There, I discovered that I was no longer "Lonely" at all-- Spirits were everywhere, and kind strangers too! As I worked during daily rituals and walking meditations, I felt the peaceful balance of true healing return to me. And a new name:

Monika Healing Coyote

The synchronicity of this name has been the most wonderful trick! As you may have observed, my website domain name is "healingcoyote.com" and has been since 2012 (back then, "lonelycoyote.com" was taken by another business). A similar trick happened with my Twitter domain name, "@healingcoyote" (since "@lonelycoyote" was already taken, too).

The final "aha!" moment came during a Reiki healing session from dear friends; Coyote confirmed the name himself, and rolled his eyes at my hesitant acceptance. Apparently, this metamorphosis of mine has been planned out for the past few years (what a long trick)!

I look forward to learning the new lessons, benefits, and restrictions of this magical name, and I am very excited to hopefully put it on my book. I give great thanks to the Spirits, and lots of joyful laughter for this Two-by-Four!

31 May, 2016

Client Follow-Up: a letter of healing and inspiration

Recently, I worked with a client* who struggled with very difficult and painful thought-patterns & behaviors. They were affecting her quality of life, and she wanted to move past them before they became permanent aspects of her personality. In addition to those energetic blocks, she also struggled with strong psychic perceptions, which directly affected her ability to sleep peacefully.  We worked together for 2.5 hours, releasing past traumas. It was hard work for the both of us, and brought a closeness that inspired hope for her future.

A few days ago, I received the most lovely follow-up email from her, and am posting parts of it (with her permission):

"Hello Monika,
I want to thank you for your services last Saturday. It was an incredible experience that I certainly will NEVER forget. As soon as I got home I felt peace and serenity. I changed my bedding, bought the stones, and searched for the books you recommended. For the past week I have felt clear minded, happy, and excited to live again and I have you to thank for that.
 Although it is a very awkward and sad conversation to have regarding [my past traumas], I have come to terms with it. I have been struggling with this for 4 years, but your story and kind words have made me feel at peace for once. I truly believe we were connected for a reason and I am blessed to have met you.
Unfortunately the past few days I have seen outlines of spirits but they do not bother me. I know that the cute and fluffy fox (who I have named Wolfie) is going to protect me and not let anyone or anything get in my way. I feel as if Wolfie is my friend and spiritual partner. 
Once again, you are truly a talented woman that has helped me overcome various difficult obstacles in just the 2.5 hours we spent together. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
--Client and Wolfie"

I give great thanks for the Spirits for helping us find each other. Our work together not only helped her, but provided healing for me as well. A fantastic appointment for us both!

*I never post any information about clients without their expressed permission, as this breaks confidentiality. However, some do permit their words to be used in Testimonials, as guidance for future clients.

18 May, 2016

Piñon Pine: how a new helping spirit gets my attention!

During my self-healing retreat to Arizona, I met and worked with many new Helping Spirits.  Raven and Red-Tail Hawk have been friends for years, but Rattlesnake and Piñon Pine were very new! Here is the story of how I began working with the Spirit of Piñon Pine...

(from WikiCommons, public domain image)
A little over a month ago, I stopped by my local Pagan shop to purchase incense and candles. I always love working with Frankincense and Myrrh, as they help to clear out my Healing Room and materials after each client. As I went to purchase a few bags, I saw something labeled "Pinyon Incense."  There was no description on the label, but I thought it might be neat to try a new scent, so I purchased one bag of it.

Throughout the following weeks, I would light a stick when I was answering clients' emails, or writing my book. It was sort of a subtle smell of "freshness,"  but I didn't really feel one way or the other. I finished the bag, and promptly forgot all about it.

Last week, when I traveled to Arizona, I brought with me a "Desert Tree/Shrub Identification" booklet. It didn't have all of the different plants that I encountered, but it did identify the Piñon Pine as one of the more common trees at around 5,000 feet above sea level. I started seeing it everywhere, as it usually grew near Juniper and Mesquite Trees.

During one of my first hikes in the Red Rock desert, I found a Piñon with some of its limbs chopped off. Resinous sap was actively dripping, and I leaned in, wondering if it smelled as strong as the Pines on the East Coast...

(c) Lonely Coyote, 2016
I almost fell over with amazement! It smelled nothing like its East Coast cousin--a powerful, spicy-lemony-piney-fresh scent. It was such a strong and uplifting smell, that it completely invigorated me. I started actively looking for it on my many journeys. I was stunned by its powerful presence; one smell would re-energize me for another hour of hiking.

After two or three days of getting to know the physical aspects of the Piñon, I sat near one and prepared to Journey to meet the Spirit. When I work with the Pine Trees near me (mostly Loblolly Pine), I receive messages of focus, concentration, mental clarity, and purification (many of us know the wonderful smell of Pine from memories of walking in forests, and its sacredness is memorialized within the Irish Ogham). I had no idea what sort of information I would receive about the Piñon Pine, but I was excited to find out!

The Spirit of Piñon was incredibly welcoming and loving, and worked with me for my own heart-healing. It spoke of using the resin in healing ceremonies, and its ability to clear negativity (especially the "stickiness" of Miasma, a Greek word that is used to describe the spiritual substance that surrounds land/home/animals/people as a result of spiritual intrusion and/or dangerous & unethical works). It gave permission to harvest a very small amount of resin, and I responded by offering it the rest of my water and cornmeal.

In the week or so since I've returned from the Desert, I've worked with Piñon daily. It has helped me to release some particularly painful and tricky emotional thorns, and has had a powerful effect during healing ceremonies with my clients.

Yesterday, I visited the Pagan shop and purchased new bags of incense. I specifically tried to find more of the "Pinyon" bags, since I now knew more about the Helping Spirit. Sadly, there was very little left, and it wasn't quite as strong-smelling as the resin from the desert. When I asked the staff member about the possibility of ordering more, or a different variety, she responded very helpfully, but mentioned that almost no one requests it, and it hardly ever sells. It was such a wonderful and serendipitous event, to find the incense when I did, that I wonder if Piñon Pine was giving me a Two-by-Four and letting me know we'd be working together!  I give great thanks, and look forward to learning more about the Spirit of Piñon in the coming weeks.

07 May, 2016

Sedona in bloom

I'm back in my favorite vacation place, working on self-healing. I've been to Arizona twice before, but never in the Spring/early Summer. The desert is in bloom!

I've journeyed to a few of these plants, but not all. I wanted to share my pictures, while I had WiFi signal at this cute little coffee house...

(c) Lonely Coyote, 2016
 I believe this might be some sort of pepper plant, but not sure...

(c) Lonely Coyote, 2016
This gorgeous magenta flower is attached to the Hedgehog Cactus.

(c) Lonely Coyote, 2016
These buds are part of the Agave plant, which gives sweet nectar and tequila!

(c) Lonely Coyote
I am 90% sure that this is Indian Paintbrush. The fiery orange and red is stunning in a pine forest!

(c) Lonely Coyote, 2016
I believe this is a form of Desert Daisy, and it is my favorite shade of yellow. These have been prolific on my hiking trails.

(c) Lonely Coyote, 2016
A bit of Celtic flora; the Blessed Thistle!

(c) Lonely Coyote, 2016
This is my FAVORITE flower found so far; the Snapdragon Penstemon. It has this amazing smell that I wish I could put on this blog; a combination of Lilac, Honeysuckle, and Rose.

Hope you enjoy the images, and stay tuned for more as I am able to find a dedicated WiFi signal!

03 May, 2016

Personal healing and retreat

In less than an hour, I leave for BWI and Arizona. The desert has been calling me every since I moved to Columbia back in January, and I am heeding the call for personal healing.

Sedona, Arizona  (c) Lonely Coyote, 2015

I rarely post personal facts on this blog, but this retreat is motivated by my ongoing divorce.  Divorce is such a strange thing, and it affects more than just the "ex" relationship. In-laws, friends groups, spiritual communities, close confidants; all of it shifts and moves as a new balance is reached.

I have worked with some excellent healers, therapists, self-help books (the Divorce Recovery Workbook is fantastic), and my Shadow work has been powerful and life-altering. This shamanic challenge is heavy, but I see the lessons, and feel the intense growth within myself.

This week in the desert might be lonely, but this Lonely Coyote is craving time within Nature. I will be writing more of my book, Differentiating Between Mental Illness and Spiritual Experiences (gods I need a shorter title), as well as hiking and re-claiming my Joy.

I return from Arizona after a week, and am looking forward to bringing the lessons of the desert to shamanic clients. Although I am not offering Healing Ceremonies during my time there, I am able to give mentoring sessions and divination, and I will have some wi-fi access during the evenings.

Blessings to you all, dear readers, and stay tuned as I update this blog with pictures, funny insights, and hilarious stories about the shenanigans Coyote and I get into as I return to my Joy-filled self!